We may believe that we cannot be happy unless we are pain free. However, the truth is actually the opposite.
We cannot be pain free unless we are happy.
Outcome independence is one of the most powerful mindsets we can adopt.
To be outcome independent is to know 100% that whatever the end result of a certain chain of events is, we'll be totally fine and happy, even if the outcome is not the one we had hoped for.
Tying our future happiness to a specific outcome is not only unhealthy, but also counterproductive
Unhealthy because it causes stress and worry.
Counterproductive because stressing and worrying will hamper our present ability to function at our highest level to produce the outcome we hope for.
The first step to achieving an outcome-independent attitude is to be aware of our thoughts and emotions.
Believing we can only feel happy once we are symptom free is the same kind of thinking. Outcome independence here means your definition of success is independent of a specific outcome; being symptom free.
One of the clearest paths to eliminating your symptoms is to take away the pain's power by overcoming your preoccupation with it. So cultivating this attitude; this outcome independence, frees you from the pain cycle.
Whilst outcome dependence feeds and reinforces the pain cycle, keeping you trapped.